Bye Sister: James Charles needs to be in prison edition
Photo: Beacon Archives
Image from one of James Charles’ apology videos.
April 8, 2021
TW: This article contains mentions of sexual harassment, pedophilia, and grooming.
In 2021, YouTube will seemingly never know peace, and it’s time for beauty community superstar James Charles to face the music for allegedly grooming and sexually harassing several young boys and men. And yes, you read that right, several.
Charles rose to fame in 2016, after his high school senior photos went viral for his stellar makeup and bright highlight. It was later revealed that Charles had edited the pictures, and that a ring light was not the cause of the highlight, as he had originally claimed.
Soon after, Charles became the young darling of the YouTube beauty community, and today has around 25 million subscribers on YouTube. Even from the beginning, apart from the ring light debacle, controversy followed him.
In 2017, Charles posted a now-deleted tweet that reads, “‘I can’t believe we’re going to Africa today omg what if we get Ebola?’ ‘James we’re fine we could’ve gotten it at chipotle last year.’”
Rightfully so, fans called out Charles for the racist joke. After his plane landed in South Africa, he issued a notes app apology where he acknowledged his privilege as a white male.
The next scandal Charles faced was in 2019 when he made a comment in a video about how he wasn’t “fully gay” since “there’s also been trans guys in the past, too, that [he] was really, really into for a moment in time.”
Charles faced backlash from the LGBTQ+ community for the transphobic remark, and he issued an apology to Twitter claiming he should have chosen his words better.
The final scandal unrelated to grooming is ironic, as it involves Charles pretending to pose for a mugshot. In April 2020, across TikTok and Twitter, influencers and audiences alike were applying makeup and posing for fake mugshots. In many of the TikToks, the creators created a story for the mugshot, but when Charles posted his now-deleted version to Instagram, he simply said nothing.
Fans reacted negatively to the post, claiming that it trivialized domestic abuse. Charles reacted to the controversy by tweeting “only I could lazily smudge on some purple eyeshadow and fake blood to recreate a dumb tik tok trend and have it twisted into an actual scandal lol.” His response shows how Charles seems to view getting ‘canceled’ as something to laugh about.
This scandal stands out more now in 2021, as James Charles could very well have a real mugshot in the coming months for his alleged crimes.
But first, we have to backtrack to Summer of 2019, when fellow beauty guru Tati Westbrook, close friend and mentor of James Charles, uploaded a now-deleted video titled “Bye Sister,”, launching the wave of cancellations and callouts that would come to be known as “Drammageddon 2.”
In “Bye Sister,” Westbrook discusses how Charles posted an ad during Coachella for Sugar Bear Hair, the direct competitor to her hair vitamin brand, Halo Beauty. This event, and betrayal, made Westbrook reconsider her friendship with Charles, and look at past events in a new light.
One of the many incidents that Westbrook discusses involves a waiter named Sam Cooke and how Charles made inappropriate advances on him at Westbrook’s birthday dinner.
After this video, Cooke initially came forward backing Westbrook’s story, saying that Charles forced him, a 19-year-old straight man, into uncomfortable sexual situations. Later, Cooke came out and admitted that everything was a lie, and that he felt pressured by his friends and family to make a video villainizing James Charles. However, fans were not convinced by this admission, as Cooke honestly looks scared in the video. Many believed that he recanted the story because of a possible cease-and-desist from Charles and his lawyers.
Another beauty guru, Jeffree Star (controversial in his own right), came forward after Westbrook’s video and said that Charles had been banned from his home for being a predator.
Star continued to smear Charles’ name even a year later in 2020, claiming on a podcast that he has a voice memo from an alleged victim of Charles explaining his story. The voice memo and the victim have never been made public, and as Star seems to thrive on drama, it’s somewhat hard to believe him.
Back in 2019 soon after Westbrook’s video, a 20-year-old man named Gage Gomez came forward about a situation that happened during the same fateful Coachella weekend. Gomez alleged that Charles knew he was straight, but continued to pressure him into sexual situations. Charles posted a notes app explanation to Twitter, claiming that everything that happened between him and Gomez was consensual.
For a brief period of time, Charles experienced relative peace, until February 2021 when 16-year-old Isaiyah posted a video to TikTok alleging that Charles had an inappropriate relationship with him. Isaiyah included screenshots of their conversation and claimed that Charles sent him unsolicited nude images and sexually explicit messages, even after finding out Isaiyah’s real age.
Later that same day, Charles posted a notes app apology once again, where he admits to “flirting” with a minor, but victim-blames Isaiyah for lying about his age. Charles’ defense is that Isaiyah reached out to him first as an excited fan, and that after finding out he wasn’t really 18, as he claimed, he removed him from his Snapchat. Charles states that in the future he will “ask to see the ID or passport of every guy [he has] a conversation with.”
First of all, the burden of proof is on the adult, and in a court of law, Charles claiming he simply didn’t know that Isaiyah was underage would hold no weight.
Second, as someone who is the same age as Charles—21–there is no way I would ever be able to see an 18-year-old as anything other than a child.
Third, as a celebrity, if someone comes to you immediately professing that they are a huge fan, wouldn’t you see something wrong with taking advantage of that power imbalance and pressuring someone into a sexual situation?
Isaiyah’s confession unleashed a tidal wave of accusations, and to date, around 16 different men have come forward with stories, 10 of whom are underage. The youngest of these alleged victims is 14. If I sat here and discussed all of these accusations, we would be here forever. Instead, I leave you with the @defnoodles Twitter thread that breaks down every allegation.
On April Fool’s Day, amid the wave of accusations, Charles uploaded a video titled “holding myself accountable.” In the video, Charles addresses two of the victims, and admits that if he looked into the victim’s social media presence he would have known they were minors.
Charles explains that he was so “reckless” in checking the ages of these victims because he is desperate to be in a relationship. Desperation is not an excuse for grooming and pedophilia.
James, if you really want to hold yourself accountable for these actions, Google the directions to your nearest police station and turn yourself in. You can’t “hold yourself accountable” for pedophilia and grooming.
In the video, Charles also acknowledges that it looks like he is actively seeking out younger people, and claims that’s not true. However, a recently resurfaced clip from Logan Paul’s podcast shows Charles saying he simply doesn’t find older men attractive, and that he would willingly date an 18-year-old.
So far, Charles has not been dropped by any of his sponsors or the brands he works with, such as Morphe, Sephora, and Chipotle. The only true consequence he has faced so far is being removed from the second season of his YouTube show “Instant Influencer.”
For someone like me who’s been on the internet for a long time, the most disheartening part of this situation is seeing Charles’ young fans defend him. It reminds me of when I was young, and defended people like Shane Dawson and Onision, and so many band members accused of sexual assault.
These young kids are being conditioned to think that lying about your age makes you responsible for getting groomed. Not only that, but they are watching James Charles face no consequences for his actions, and they’re learning that grooming is fine, as long as someone posts a half-assed apology on Twitter.
I look back at the people I defended, and I’m ashamed, but proud to have unlearned what defending those predators taught me. I can only hope that one day these young fans realize and unlearn what James Charles has taught them.
Kai
Nov 15, 2022 at 11:30 pm
I won’t lie I don’t really see a bad difference between a 3 year age gap (18-21). But I will say James Charles is a concerning person. I do not know what state he lives in but if he is in a state that allows 16-18 as consent to older people for dating he’s technically following the law in his state. However I will say if he did date someone 16-17 I would be creeped out. The Land of the Free aka United States of America is fucked in many different ways. We can be corrupt, ignorant, etc. in different states. I’m writing this as a 17 year old so this is my perspective. Hopefully James will learn and if not karma will eventually come, we can’t do much if a case isn’t involved or until he’s taken to court. Hopefully for him I hope he doesn’t need to get to that point cause once you’re in the system your life is changed. If this sounds like i’m defending James I apologize because I am not. I just didn’t agree with a few things and wrote my opinion.
Grim
Oct 18, 2022 at 6:28 am
I’m so sorry there are so many idiots in the comments defending pedophiles
Grim
Oct 18, 2022 at 6:26 am
This entire article is beyond brilliant and so fúçkíñg aware of the problems that need to be addressed, your a badass
Shawn
Feb 17, 2022 at 12:34 am
Jail is not the answer. America has more people in jail, per capita than any other country in the world. Land of the free my ass.
Rheyanna
Sep 30, 2021 at 8:49 am
First of all your only 3 years older than an 18 year old I don’t see how you can consider them children when your practically a child yourself. Second calling for jail time is overkill I don’t really care for James Charles in fact the entire reason I’m here is because I saw a strange tik tok yesterday but I don’t think he’s a bad person and he kind of is or at least trying to take responsibility. I also don’t think he’s stupid enough to talk to a 14 year old and he probably only addressed two of the supposed “victims” is because he did interact with them. I also don’t think he’s wrong for being desperate for love since it is a lot harder to find “your person” in the lgbtq+ world. Anyway my point is I truly don’t think he’s a bad person he just needs to be more conscious of who he’s talking to.
KC N
May 18, 2021 at 10:26 pm
Amazing article, thank you for this!
Jason Osborn
May 18, 2021 at 1:01 am
The comment about a 21 year old seeing an 18 year old as a child is hilarious considering a 21 year old is similarly a child; a 3 year age gap is not mind blowing, especially between legal consenting adults. I’d also like to remind you that in many places around the world, the age of consent ranges from 14-18, with many being 16 years old; the USA is not the beacon of morality and doesn’t determine what is considered normal or right and wrong. It’s also just bad journalism to use the term pedophile for someone attracted to pubescent teenagers, it would be ephebophilia for accuracy. I don’t really see how a bunch of idiotic teenagers who know better misrepresenting themselves to fool a celebrity who is just a kid himself into sending some dirty pics is this monstrous thing. The age of adulthood and consent are arbitrary numbers plucked out of thin air for absolutely no real reason. A logical age of consent or adulthood would be 25 as the brain isn’t fully developed until then. This entire thing is frankly ridiculous, I hope he turns out okay after all this lunacy.
Carry Alane
Apr 27, 2021 at 4:58 pm
Great story, thanks for bravely calling this out, if this much is public information, then what we don’t know is probably much worse. I’m sorry your writing attracted MRA who are apparently pro-pedophilia now, I did not know they had added that to their platform. I’m fascinated by how predators set upon any writing like this but it has to be that these folks have some kind of ‘google alert’ set up regarding certain names or topics. It’s very creepy to me that one referenced the ‘constant trial’ men are supposedly under…newsflash those that don’t seek to groom and violate children don’t have problems with this. There is no doubt in my mind this person you write about will end up in prison and if people would put this stuff through the FBI tip line he’d probably get there a whole lot sooner.
Robert Alvarado
Apr 17, 2021 at 2:36 am
age of consent laws range between 16-18 in the united states. calm down. james Charles needs help and I hope he finds it. prison seems like overkill.
Barkley
Apr 11, 2021 at 9:01 am
“As someone who is the same age as Charles—21–there is no way I would ever be able to see an 18-year-old as anything other than a child. ”
Ridiculous. You’re still practically a child yourself, and it’s a 3 year age gap. Also, hilarious that it’s lost on you that many 18 year olds will likely look much older than you at the ripe old age of… 21!
Not a fan of James at all, but calling for jail time because he messaged someone he thought was 3 years younger and of legal age is… BONKERS!
Quit with the acid hate and direct it at the plethora of real abhorrences in the world.
John Johns Johanssen
Apr 9, 2021 at 9:04 am
I wonder if feminists realize how much rage and resentment is building up through decades of constant psychological attacks on male sexuality? Now we’re supposed to hate James Charles because older teenagers who are above the age of consent in most places, are sexting—which they do anyway all the time, and everybody knows it. But now they’re innocent little lambs. These are the same 16 and 18 year old boys feminists would lynch from a tree if they could over the slightest sexual imposition—“date rape”. Men are getting so sick of this politics, this witch hunting, this constant trial.
James Charles is a young person. His fame just so happened to coincide with his turning 18-19. It should be any surprise he is attracted to people in and around his age. 16 is the age of consent all over the place. James Charles, besides maybe being catty from time to time, does not jump out at me as some kind of sick abuser. He’s just a young person. But because he’s 18-19-20-21 growing up in the spot light, he has to walk through this minefield. None of the young men he’s been accused of sexting look like they’re 12.
But now he’s a “pedophile” because he’s attracted to someone 5 years younger than him. It is outrageous. And I blame feminism which is completely deranged and destroying men for the slightest wrong. I keep hoping women will wake up to the damage they are doing to THEMSELVES, but I know it will never happen. All we can look forward to is more and more destruction until society implodes because men revolt. I expect that time to arrive within the next 20 years.
Have fun destroying men over nothing ladies!
See you in the trenches in 2041.