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We owe Amber Heard an apology

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Opinion editors are not responsible for agreeing or disagreeing with their writers but rather elevate each individual’s specific voice.

 

Imagine a powerful man as a ship, like the Titanic. That ship is a huge enterprise. When it strikes an iceberg, there are a lot of people on board desperate to patch up holes — not because they believe in or even care about the ship, but because their own fates depend on the enterprise.

– Amber Heard, Washington Post

Amber Heard was undoubtedly abused, as shown empirically and undoubtedly by the 14 pieces of evidence she had on her side.

The box office numbers for “Aquaman 2” were predictably low. But why? Was it the bad CGI? The dwindling fanbase of people who like DC more than Marvel?

Or was it collateral damage from the scathing defamation case that Amber Heard lost against her ex-husband?

Petitions to add her ex-husband, Johnny Depp, back into the “Pirates of the Caribbean” franchise after their legal battle have received thousands of signatures—whereas petitions to remove Heard from the Aquaman” franchise have received millions

Amber Heard and Johnny Depp began dating after meeting on set for their movie “The Rum Diary.” She was a bright-eyed ingénue, a rising star at 23 years of age. Depp was a veteran in the industry, one of the largest movie stars in the world. He was 46.

In 2015, after a few years of rocky marriage, Heard filed for divorce and a restraining order, all within the same week. Later, she published an Op-Ed in the Washington Post where she wrote about surviving domestic violence, never naming her former spouse. What followed was years of grueling legal battles and a tarnished reputation that would haunt her indefinitely. 

Firstly, Depp sued The Sun for libel after they released a headline calling him a “wife beater.” A U.K. judge found substantial evidence of at least 12 of the 14 counts of abuse Heard made, rendering his claims baseless and losing him the trial. 

Initially, he sued in the U.K. because the courts are more favorable for celebrities in libel cases. However, because his case was determined by a judge trained to look at evidence and not by a jury, he fired blanks over the pond.

Why did Depp agree to pay £5 million as a settlement in The Sun trial, including a confidentiality agreement, if there was no truth to the allegations?

After this loss, he pursued the defamation case in the U.S.—but this time, against Heard, who authored the alleged “defamatory” article in The Washington Post. 

Amber Heard had more evidence than most abuse victims do. Even so, the verdict fell into the hands of the court of public opinion, who weaponized one-dimensional tropes of female victims to frame her as the abuser.

In journalist Michael Hobbes’ personal essay “The bleak spectacle of the Amber Heard-Johnny Depp trial,” he lays out in the shortest, most consumable way just some of the evidence against Johnny Depp—that of which resulted in him losing his trial in the U.K.

“Numerous people saw Heard with bruises, cuts and missing chunks of hair. Depp’s staffers testify to the damage he caused to their homes and hotel rooms,” Hobbes writes. “Heard’s acting coach says she had to schedule a longer session with Heard to help her work through the trauma of the relationship; a makeup artist says she helped cover bruises.” 

He goes on to say:

“Numerous audio recordings include tacit or explicit acknowledgments by Depp that he exploded in anger at Heard—as well as some of those explosions themselves. In one she says, ‘I cry in my bedroom after I dumped you a week prior after you beat the shit out of me,’ and Depp replies, ‘I made a huge mistake. I won’t do it again.’ In another Heard says, ‘put your cigarettes out on someone else’ and Depp replies, ‘Shut up, fat ass.’”

If this isn’t incriminating enough, the last alleged abuse incident, wherein Depp threw his phone at Heard, was witnessed entirely by her friend via phone call. Two more testified that they’d seen him act aggressively towards her, and her sister testified that Depp once held her dog out of the window of a moving car when he was drinking.

This is all in addition to pictures of contemporaneous communication between Heard and counterparts, as well as Depp and counterparts, to which he admitted his abuse. 

There is documentation of his texts from early in his relationship with Heard, calling her an “idiot cow,” “filthy whore,” and “worthless hooker.” One particularly unsettling text says, “I’ll smack the ugly cunt around before I let her in, don’t worry.”

Heard isn’t the only person to accuse Depp of violence. A 2018 lawsuit filed by a crew member claimed Depp verbally accosted and punched him on the set of “City of Lies.” 

Even the argument that Depp’s whole U.S. case rests on, which is that she accused him for the sake of gaining clout, is a complete moot point to any woman who has ever stepped forward. 

Speaking from personal experience, coming forward about abuse and assault does nothing good for your reputation. At its very best, it consists of hours worth of headache-inducing meetings, documentation, and holding a magnifying glass up to traumatic events that you must relive and relive again to prove your account is true.

At worst, it destroys your life and mental health until you have nothing left to give, except for giving up. 

According to the APA, 20 percent of survivors develop mental health conditions after abuse, such as PTSD and substance abuse disorders. Intimate partner violence is a precursor to 6 percent of all suicides.

Survivors do not benefit from speaking out against powerful men, as evident in pop culture history, from Anita Hill to Christine Blasey Ford. E. Jean Carroll is the exception—she is one of the “lucky ones,” having an $83 million settlement to show for her trauma. 

This is a sad irony: you can’t put a price tag on trauma. 

Like leeches, the public latched onto the few bits of discrepancy in Heard’s case, undeservingly sucking all probability from her story. A prime example: Heard’s divorce settlement that she planned to donate half to the ACLU, and the other half to the Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles. Come to find out—via Depp’s lawyers, nonetheless—she didn’t follow through. 

So, we have options. We can take this at face value, which we would presumably do if we had zero media literacy or critical thinking skills, or we could take a closer look, like Hobbes did:

“While it’s true that Heard hasn’t donated the full amount, all evidence indicates that she intends to,” he wrote. “Large charity donations are routinely spread out over longer periods and representatives from the ACLU testified that Heard was transparent with them about her financial circumstances and remains committed to completing her payments. The ‘proven lie’ here amounts to an imprecise choice of words: She said ‘I donated’ when she should have said ‘I pledged.’”

If misspeaking is a crime, lock me up. In fact, lock Johnny Depp up too—unless he wants to rescind his statements of support for Roman Polanski, Harvey Weinstein, and Marilyn Manson

And this is who y’all want representing #MeToo victims? 

Just because a woman does not present herself as the picturesque “perfect victim,” with no wrinkles or shrapnel of anger or vengeance in her case—which would be well warranted—does not mean we should dismiss her story or allegations. It’s common for victims of a traumatic event to mix up their details, change their story, or not recount it entirely

Is this at all surprising when the system we’ve curated for them to come forward in is one that was never built for them to succeed in the first place?

In the Virginia case, a Disney executive testified that no one at the studio was even aware of Heard’s op-ed when they decided not to ask Depp back for the next “Pirates” movie.

Looks like this might have been a Hail Mary for Depp’s dying career, rather than what it was percieved as—cash grab on the part of Heard, at the expense of her life as she knew it.

Heard was doomed to lose from the beginning for two reasons. This trial wasn’t about who abused who; it was about defamation—and it was preceded by another defamation trial that went way differently for Depp. 

“Because the U.S. trial was before a jury, it allowed Depp’s lawyers to focus on Heard, a well-worn tactic of defendants in domestic abuse cases but one that was dismissed by the judge in the UK,” an article in the Guardian wrote.

As many of us know, the entire trial was live-streamed on YouTube—the equivalent of throwing bait into waters infested with woman-hungry, Twitch-streaming sharks. As  media coverage about the trial climbed in numbers, like TikTok parodies, Twitter memes, and body-language-bullshit-analysts, the jury trying Heard was able to consume all this content practically in real-time. On TikTok, the hashtag #justiceforjohnnydepp received 19 billion views. Jurors were instructed not to read about the case online but they were not isolated from social interactions and were allowed to keep their phones.

To put it in legal terms, the jury was not sequestered. 

Jurors get sequestered in traffic cases for Christ’s sake—you mean to tell me they could go home and watch the news or scroll Facebook to hear the populus’ opinions on this trial as they were weighing in on it? 

In an article for Vanity Fair, the People’s Princess of White House interns and my fondest muse, Monica Lewinsky, wrote:

“We experience only apprehension, knee-jerk outrage, and titillation. It’s like going to the opera and reading a couple of translated supertitles but not understanding Italian. And despite whatever else this is, it is a soap opera.”

The next vital legal strategy weaponized by Depp’s team was requesting this trial take place in Virginia. So why is that?

First, we must answer the question of why he was able to sue in Virginia—that being because it was a defamation case. The defamation in question concerning Heard’s Washington Post Op-Ed, which would fall under the jurisdiction of the Fairfax Circuit Court. 

But he resides nowhere near Virginia. Not one of his five homes is relatively close to Virginia—hell, half aren’t even in the States. Depp and Heard both would have lived in Los Angeles at the time the abuse was taking place.

So again, why Virginia?

According to The Independent, Virginia has notoriously lax—nay, nonexistent—Anti-SLAPP laws. 

“Anti-SLAPP laws are intended to prevent people from using courts, and potential threats of a lawsuit, to intimidate people who are exercising their First Amendment rights,” according to the Reporters Committee.

SLAPP laws typically protect an individual’s right to free speech and free press; like, for example, if you wanted to publish an article about your (allegedly) abusive husband, without ever mentioning his name. Virginia also does not possess any shield laws that protect anyone participating in the publication of news through somewhere like WaPo from being sued for libel, defamation, or non-disclosure of source identities. 

This is a terrifying breach of protection for anyone practicing journalism in Virginia. It is far worse for someone like Amber Heard who has lost her reputation and livelihood because of this oversight in the state’s protection of writers, reporters, or anyone looking to publish a personal story about their own life

Moreover, this oversight was admitted by Depp’s team to be the precise reason why the trial didn’t take place in their residential state of California, which is noted in the same article by The Independent. 

The twisted legal strategies did not work alone. They were compounded with a culture insatiable for female suffering, which we will now turn to and ask: How? Why?

This was a trial full of faults and loopholes that Heard would have never been able to win, no matter how innocent she was. The Take, a YouTube channel that does video essays, called this a trial by social media.

The area in which this took place is a product of our desensitization to violence due to True Crime culture, combined with dormant feelings of vitriol towards imperfect women, waiting for an impetus. 

Camille Vasquez, Depp’s lawyer, recently admitted that she played up the theatrics of the case, knowing the trial was televised and it would benefit Depp. If we carefully examine the legal strategies at work in this trial, we see that no decision made by Depp’s team was accidental. Each move was calculated to make Heard look worse.

Amber Heard was positioned to be an evil, scheming woman. The conniving vixen—a trope born from Genesis and seen forced upon women from the White House to Hollywood, was the weapon of choice for the angry anti-Heard mob. This was a meticulously crafted machine built on hate and misogyny—one that grasped onto empty “proof,” including but not limited to: suspected fake crying, mutual abuse, and conspiracies about her doing coke on the stand. 

This was mixed in a chemistry lab with the parasocial relationship the public has with beloved actor Depp and the ensuing wrath that came from someone threatening that.

As The Take said in their “Manipulative Victim Trope” video essay:

“The media is deeply invested in these fictions because they obscure the structural forces that are at play.”

To flip the coin, let’s say Heard was the perfect, innocent victim. One familiar to us from history and pop culture—younger, sweeter, quieter. 

It wouldn’t have mattered.

Gabby Petito, a 22 year old from New York on a road trip with her boyfriend, fit the stereotypical “perfect” narrative of the innocent, often white, female victim. Despite this, she was initially labeled the aggressor by police. They dismissed it as a “domestic scuffle” and sent the couple on their merry way.

After the exchange with police, Petito went missing, prompting the police to turn their heads to her then-boyfriend, Brian Laundrie. Later, she was found dead—murdered by Laundrie.

So even if Heard engaged in toxic, horrid, nasty behavior towards Depp, it would not make her the abuser. Besides the fact she has mountains of evidence on her side, and she is attempting to work in a system built against her, domestic violence experts say “mutual abuse” is a myth. 

“Mutual abuse” places more blame on the primary victim, and less accountability on the primary abuser. Bad behavior does not equate abuse. Neither does toxic, wretched behavior—on its own, that is.

One example: the famed defecation on Depp’s bed that earned Heard the nickname “Amber Turd.” You can read about the story above—it’s not something to be proud of. However, after deeply reviewing each piece of evidence, Depp’s violent history outside of his relationship with Heard, and the public feedback to the trial, Heard’s actions were not proof of her wickedness, only her weakness. 

Abuse occurs when one party has power over another. So to say, if one party is decades older and has tangible star power over the other—in the form of movies under his belt, net worth ($150 million vs. $9 million), and legacy. It’s clear who had more power in this situation, and thus who was the abuser.

Heard’s toxic behavior does not negate the existence of Depp’s abuse.

So what’s the point? Why write about this now, after so much time?

At the beginning of my freshman year of college, I discovered Rayne Fisher-Quann’s essay “Who’s Afraid of Amber Heard?” through her Substack, @internetprincess. This led me to Hobbes’ essay, which led me to Lewinsky’s. I fell down a rabbit hole of video essays, analyses of the portrayal of female victims in pop culture, and the hundreds of pages of legal documentation behind Depp v. Heard. Then came the eponymous Netflix “docuseries,” if you could even call it that. It’s a joke, and yet it reignited the flames of the case against Amber Heard.

Time and time again, the media has regurgitated the same tired narrative that Amber Heard is a monster. A mutual abuser. 

When we associate neatness with victimhood, we lose a collection of survivors’ stories and generations of survivors. Heard’s story matters to us because all survivor’s stories matter—imperfect or otherwise. If an affluent white woman isn’t protected from the wrath for survivors, it can happen to any one of us. 

We owe Amber Heard a collective apology. On behalf of my Tumblr-scrolling 12-year-old self who didn’t initially believe her, on behalf of the sad excuse for “journalism” that’s been written about her, and on behalf of the world.  

What I hope we can take away from this is a little more grace and compassion for victims. I hope we can stop defending men who exhibit the worst behavior imaginable on a regular basis, and start defending victims who only display it in their darkest hour. 

Victims don’t have to be perfect to deserve a fair trial. They don’t have to be perfect to deserve empathy. And they don’t have to be perfect to deserve a fresh start. 

It sets back the clock to a time when a woman who spoke up and spoke out could be publicly shamed and humiliated … It sets back the idea that violence against women should be taken seriously.

-Amber Heard, Instagram 

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Meg Richards, Staff Writer
Meg Richards is a first-year student from Richmond, Virginia. She has a double major in journalism and political communications. She mainly writes for the Opinion section, though she dabbles in News and Living Arts.

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    Jay / Apr 5, 2024 at 3:26 pm

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    Ally / Feb 23, 2024 at 6:04 am

    So apologise to a serial abuser with evidence clear? Amber Heard should be in jail and is unfit to be human.
    She abused JD, there is no question or doubt. She is a horrible person.

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    CC / Feb 18, 2024 at 5:22 am

    I love the article. While I understand the point in playing the devil’s advocate in entertaining the idea that Amber defecated on the bed. And that it is beside the point of his being the aggressor and she the victim regardless of is she had done such a thing. It should be known that there is no evidence that she did so. Just the word of a person who needs Depp to keep their paycheck coming in.

    She has said she did not from the start. I believe her. There IS evidence of Depp’s preoccupation with fecal matter as fodder for a laugh. Cited on at least a couple of occasions. In one he, Marilyn Manson and Hunter S. Thompson went on a wild run through Hollywood to Depp’s star on the Walk Of Fame. Where they all tried to poop on it. Unable to produce anything they all peed on it instead. Yes. All drunk and high on who knows what. A common state for Depp.

    In another event involving feces: a text. Depp asked his assistant to poop outside of Amber’s dressing room door. The thought of her disgust amused him very much.

    It is he, not she, that was and, is likely still, obsessed with poop. He made that story up to make her look like the very type of gross person he is. This man is an actor, a writer and a producer of fictional movies. And my God, not a very good one. Seriously.

    Abusers are notorious finger pointers. for every pointed index finger there are three pointing at themselves. They often accuse others of what the have, would or will do.

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      Jay / Apr 5, 2024 at 3:25 pm

      “Amber is the victim because she has female genitalia and Johnny doesn’t. ”

      That’s basically what you just summed up. 🙄

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      GEL / Apr 11, 2024 at 12:19 pm

      I agree with your last line “Abusers are notorious finger pointers…” and she is a MASSIVE finger pointer. Did you even watch the trial? I did….sadly. I will never be one to say Depp can do or say no wrong, but he owns it… he does (and did) admit to his own issues. She however, only ever admitted to following him around the room and egging things on. You downplay witnesses as though they couldn’t possibly be credible because they work for Depp…yet they were around and saw/heard things first-hand. Who else would be around THAT much? So you want to conveniently remove eye-witnesses to behaviors.

      Let’s just set allllll of that aside though, she was not credible herself. I don’t know what precisely she was doing on the stand but it was WIERD. Her own body language didn’t jibe with what she was saying.

      I am a victim of abuse, I’m familiar with the dynamics…and while both may have done things to each other that are unacceptable. I simply did not believe her.

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    Carmina P Hughes / Feb 16, 2024 at 9:57 pm

    Why don’t you apologize to the dying children’s she stoled the money from?,why don’t you apologize to ger victims all the ppl she abused she beat
    Why you don’t apologize to Johnny Depp for be falsely accused by her and suffered for long 6 years by the press and a lot ppl bc her false accusations when she was the ABUSER Why don’t you apologize to Johnny Depp for her cut his finger burned cigarettes in his face putting scars in his for head throwing a remote control Why don’t you apologize to the victims of DV an SA amber heard mocked and make hard for women coming forward bc her lies?stop your BS and watched the trial

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    CC / Feb 16, 2024 at 9:44 pm

    No we, the public, do not owe Amber Heard an apology. She should feel ashamed and she should be giving apologies to the public for being a liar and for wrongfully accusation of rape for her financial gain.

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    Robert Samery / Feb 16, 2024 at 12:08 pm

    Yes, this does set back the view of violence against women should be taken seriously.

    Amber heard has lied, miscommunicated, exaggerated, and proven that women, has people, must be given agency for their horrendous actions.

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    LILLEMOR GUSTAVSSON / Feb 16, 2024 at 11:37 am

    Wahat a load of bullshit .she is a disgusting serial abuser And a pathological liaier. He proved it in court White evidence and medical records. Stop defending that dicusting abuser and evil humenbeing.

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    Rose / Feb 16, 2024 at 11:17 am

    I do not agree with your article. She owes an apology to the Johnny the survivors and the people she left behind during all of her destruction

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    Macy Jackson / Feb 15, 2024 at 1:43 pm

    I found this on twitter! what a well-written article covering so many tropes of the female victim in media. Hope you stay in journalism 💗

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    Mike / Feb 15, 2024 at 11:41 am

    Bla bla bla, nobody cares. #AmberTurd

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    Sahara Sajjadi / Feb 15, 2024 at 10:53 am

    Love it! Thank you for writing this. The narrative the Depp team carefully construed was rooted in misogyny. The world absolutely owes Heard an apology and I hope she gets it one day.

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    Stonehorn / Feb 15, 2024 at 10:21 am

    Well, that was a lot of propaganda and spin when we all saw the evidence of her monstrous actions with our own eyes, and heard it with our own ears.

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    Johnny D. / Feb 15, 2024 at 8:04 am

    Horrible take.

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    S Candel / Feb 15, 2024 at 5:51 am

    She had no evidence, faked photos don’t count. Also the us rulings now discredits the uk ruling as she was found to have lied with malice.

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    Chad Castagana / Feb 14, 2024 at 8:47 pm

    It is a great tragedy, and should be investigated upon that judge, why most of Amber Heard’s evidence that was perfectly valid at the UK trial was suppressed at the US trial on the whim of that judge on the on the flimsy claim that it was hearsay

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    Livia Amaral / Feb 14, 2024 at 8:29 pm

    Great article! Thank you!

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    Angela Briggs / Feb 14, 2024 at 8:06 pm

    IF you watched the VA trial you were clearly not watching the same trial I did, where Amber testified several times to being brutally beaten but the next day would be photographed looking perfect, several independent witnesses totally contradicted her testimony including LAPD I could go on. I believed Amber before the trial but like the jury I saw 6 weeks of EVIDENCE and based my opinion that she lied about her abuse on that NOT social media and to suggest otherwise is disrespectful and patronising to both the jury and those who agreed with their verdict. You say why did he pay the SUN in the UK, well he had to cos he lost the trial! based mainly on what Amber “said” happened she was merely a witness not the defendent and even the judge didn’t believe one of her claims of abuse. Ask yourself if he was in fact guilty of brutally beating his wife for 5 years why would he fight to clear his name, take her to court in the US and be happy for cameras to be in the courtroom for the whole world to witness??

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    David / Feb 14, 2024 at 6:31 pm

    Sending warm regards for this awesome write up from a skeptic-turned amber heard supporter. theres one claim I’d recommend you explore some more and that’s the notorious bed incident. The alleged bed defecation that stormed social media has been contested by Amber and there are many reasons to believe it was not Amber. Sorry for the length; it’s just one of the most critical weapons used against her and I find it’s important to disprove

    – their dog Boo had bowel issues from sneaking into Depp’s marijuana
    – texts showed that Boo had previously pooped all over Depp, indicating that this happened before.
    – There is no documentation of Amber having the sense of humor that would lead her to do that. Meanwhile, Depp texted his assistant that he should leave a dookie outside of Amber’s door as a practical joke. It makes sense that he would be inspired to craft up this story to smear her.
    – Depp either lied or misremembered the breed of Boo, saying it was a teacup yorkie, misleading the internet into believing the size of the mess could not be the result of a 3lb dog. Boo is a Yorkshire terrier, not a teacup yorkie, and weighs twice as much.
    – Depp had already left so it would make no sense for Amber to do that as “revenge” when it was only her in the bed. His housekeeper found it, not him
    – Depp initially blamed iO Tillet Wrighr for the incident, not Amber. It was only when it became a convenient tactic to dehumanize her that he changed his story.
    – Amber vehemently denied that she or iO did it in texts to Depp’s staff. She can’t believe that he would throw her under the bus for something like that.

    The incident was ultimately the catalyst for Depp’s final act of physical abuse against her, when he bruised her face with a phone .

    So, what seems more believable? The answer seems clear to me!

    Anyways hope that’s helpful. thank you for this write up!

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      Druscilla / Feb 21, 2024 at 6:36 am

      Thank you for summing this all up like this and saving me the time because I was planning to make a similar comment here.

      I’m not sure why Meg has not corrected this ugly lie against Amber, especially since I know that multiple people have submitted requests for the correction. But I hope that, sooner rather than later, she does her research and makes the correction.

      Relying only on the words of Depp and his employees against the hard contemporaneous evidence that Amber gave (plus common sense) is not a mark of good journalism. So, as much as I appreciate much of Meg’s article, I’ll fault it primarily on this issue.

      Please Meg, do the research and make the correction.

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    Crystal / Feb 14, 2024 at 5:21 pm

    Amber Heard’s PR Team working overtime. Anyone who watched the trial can decide for themselves.

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    Dita Gee / Feb 14, 2024 at 4:24 pm

    What a sick twisted narrative. Court proved her evidence was altered, her testimony was fabricated. We heard audio of her over and over taunting and abusing him while he tried to walk away. What about his evidence? His proof? This radical feminism is flawed because “Believe all women” is not acceptable! Opinion journalists are just terrible.

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    Crystal / Feb 14, 2024 at 2:51 pm

    Amber Heard’s PR team testing the waters to see public reaction. We haven’t forgotten, Amber. Go back to your hole you lying, manipulative abuser!

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    AJ / Feb 14, 2024 at 11:27 am

    Utterly delusional journalism that is not only totally removed from reality, but cheery picks, removes context and excludes the MOUNTAIN of evidence of Heard’s abuse against Depp inlukding recordings where she explicitly says she did start physical fights when he was walking away. Owe her an apology? Don’t make me laugh!

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    Eve / Feb 14, 2024 at 10:46 am

    One note about the poop in the bed – there’s no evidence Amber admitted to it. Depp’s employee claimed she did, but we have text messages between them (I think from the UK trial) where Amber is insisting that she never said that, explaining why and how the situation he described could never take place, and pleading with him to know why he was saying these things about her when he knew they weren’t true. We also know that Depp had been telling his employees to poop or move poop to where she would find it, and they would try to convince her that she or one of the dogs (preferably Boo) did it.

    I’d also argue that Amber had no reason to poop in her own bed (it was hers at that point). She walked away from roughly $15 million that he owed her in the divorce to make a clean break and so no one would say she was a gold digger. His employees would have a reason to poop in her bed, though – to make Depp happy. He was the one who enjoyed poop jokes, including trying to poop on his own Hollywood star, talking about pooping on his neighbors’ sidewalk when he thought they were being too loud, etc. We also have texts from Amber where she’s telling someone (I think her sister) that Depp and his employees kept having her punish Boo for pooping where Boo wasn’t supposed to, but that Boo didn’t even seem to remember pooping in the wrong place half the time, and she couldn’t punish the dog anymore for something the dog couldn’t help. (Also, the reason Boo had bowel issues was Depp feeding her too much weed when Boo was young.) I’d argue that the “poop in the bed” story was originally meant to punish Amber for leaving him, but they later used it to smear Amber’s reputation. After gaslighting Amber for years, I doubt it was difficult for them. And people still believe it, unfortunately, despite there being no reliable evidence that she ever had anything to do with it (and, given that she left that day to give his employees time to get his things out, likely didn’t even know about it until later).

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    Jane / Feb 14, 2024 at 10:40 am

    Do you think that we owe male physical/psychological abusers an apology also? She’s a self-admitted and proven abuser, although it’s due to her having BPD , she still chose to never seek DBT Therapy for her cluster B disorder so all of the actions she’s taken is on her. I have Heard’s same disorder and have spent years dedicating myself to improvement and accountability – something that Heard will never do, she’s had nearly 40 years to do what most of us with BPD started doing when we were children/teens/young adults. So I ask again, does this have anything to do with forgiving abusers or does this have something to do with her gender and her political ideals? (I’m a centrist so don’t start crying that a right-winger called you out please, that’s not the case and you can’t use that as an excuse here)

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